Showing posts from August, 2017

The 7 keys to building positive relationships

Building positive relationships can go a long way to improving our emotional wellbeing and our general quality of life.  Sometimes this is easy and we just “click” immediately with someone.  Sometimes, however, it takes a bit of work and when this is the case, it helps if we understand the basics of what underpins positive relationships between people.  The seven principles I’m going to outline here are influenced by the work of Robert Cialdini, whose theory of influence is based on six key principles: reciprocity, commitment and consistency, social proof, authority, liking and scarcity.  It also incorporates lessons I have learned from broader study and my experience of life in general.
Understand the other person’s world view
Much to my surprise Cialdini never mentions this, but in my opinion, it’s the single most important factor in building positive relationships with people.  Everyone acts in the best way they can according to their world view.  That’s true of all people in all …

The three keys to positive social media management

First of all, apologies for the fact that I was unable to post this yesterday as usual.  My internet was down all evening making it impossible to do anything online.  I’m now back and hope that you enjoy this post.
A couple of months ago, I bought a new phone (which I genuinely needed) and even though it was one of the cheapest models around, it could still do a lot more than my old phone, so, naturally I went ahead and filled it up with everything I could think of, including a whole batch of social media apps.  I’m actually getting a whole lot better at minimalism, or at least restraint, in the real world, but I’m still horrendous at it in the digital one.  As I should have realized my shiny new phone promptly started bleeping and blooping at me like R2:D2 on a sugar rush and I quickly realized that I needed to get to grips with my social media before it drove me to distraction.  On the plus side, this turned into a useful exercise in thinking about my use of social media in general…

Brands, side hustles and the power of empowerment - making work, work for you

For many people, work plays a huge role in our lives.  It therefore has a huge influence about how we feel in general, for example whether we suffer from “work-related-stress” or experience “job satisfaction”.  Realistically, for most people, the need to earn a living is the primary consideration, which is totally understandable, but that should never put anyone off working to improve their situation, whether that’s “getting the perfect job” or “creating the perfect job” (or a mixture of both).  What’s even better is that the steps you take towards getting or building your perfect job will also help you to future-proof your income against changes in circumstances. With that in mind, here are three questions I think everyone of working age should ask themselves on a regular basis (by which I mean at least once a quarter).  Everyone means everyone, both employees and the self-employed. If I lost my current main source of income tomorrow, what would be my quickest option(s) for replacing i…

5 self study tips for adults

These days, many people understand the importance of lifelong learning, but struggle to make it a reality, which is understandable.  Studying takes time, it can cost money (although there are some free options available) and it takes energy, which can be hard to muster when you’re busy trying to keep on top of life in general.  I’ve created three separate pages with quotes to encourage you to study, free online courses and free self-development resources and I’ll keep updating them when I find new content to add, so please check them every now and again.  This blog contains five tips for effective self study, even when you’re busy.  They work for me and I hope they work for you.  

Link it to at least one goal

You might be thoroughly sold on the idea of self-study in principle, but find that, in practice, there’s always something else higher on your list of priorities.  The trick to getting around this is to choose study topics which you can link to at least one of your life goals.  When…

11 questions to a meaningful declutter

Clutter is anything which gets in the way of you and your goals.  Physical clutter takes up space and distracts from the possessions which do matter to your life.  There are lots of decluttering guides out there, ranging from the emotionally-based “Does it spark joy?”, to the purely practical “Have you used it in 6 months?”.  This one, however, in my opinion, hits the sweet spot between the two and actually provides a meaningful and adaptable guide to dealing with clutter in any situation.
Q1. Does it spark joy?
This is the question famously asked by Marie Kondo and it’s a good starting point for a declutter.  If an item genuinely sparks joy in you and thus enriches your life, then it makes complete sense to keep it for as long as reasonably possible.
Q2. Is the item mainly practical or mainly decorative?
An item may be a combination of both, for example, attractive storage containers, but an item can only have one main purpose so you have to decide here if the item is mainly practic…